If you find yourself in love with someone who does not
love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong
with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If you find someone else in love with you and you don't
love him/her, feel honored that love came and called at
your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return.
Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.

How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all
our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives
and ways are different.
If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in
love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try
to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go. There is a
reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you.
All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when
It comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to
overflowing, then reach out and give it away.

Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to
the world around you in anyway you can. There is where many
lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they
understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as
empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin
to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing,
but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love
as need. They cease to be someone who generates love and
instead become someone who seeks love.

They forget that the secret of love is that it is a
gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it
away. Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its
own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and
going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it
into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give
it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave
from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is
nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.